Welcome to Benfleet Counselling

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Counselling is the first positive step in the right direction. Seeking counselling isn’t a sign of weakness it is a sign of strength.

Counselling is a type of talking therapy that allows a person to talk about their problems and feelings in a safe confidential environment without the fear of being judged.

Benfleet Counselling provide an opportunity for you, or someone close to you, to explore problems or concerns with an independent professional counsellor.

How can Benfleet Counselling help?

Here at Benfleet Counselling we aim to help you deal with and overcome issues that are causing pain or making you feel uncomfortable and are affecting the life you wish to lead.

Benfleet Counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk and explore difficult feelings.

A counsellor is there to support you and respect your views. They are not there to give you advice but they are there to help you find the answers with the skills you may already have but don’t know it.

Benfleet Counselling can help you to:

  • cope with a bereavement or relationship breakdown
  • cope with redundancy or work-related stress
  • deal with issues that are preventing you from achieving your ambitions
  • deal with feelings of depression or sadness, and have a more positive outlook on life
  • understand yourself and your problems better
    feel more confident
  • develop a better understanding of other people’s points of view

Counselling can often involve talking about difficult or painful feelings and, as you begin to face them, you may feel worse in some ways. However, with the help and support of your therapist, you should gradually start to feel better.

In most cases, it takes a number of sessions before the counselling starts to make a difference, and a regular commitment is required to make the best use of the therapy.

Here at Benfleet Counselling we recommend a minimum of 6 – 8 sessions to get the most out of your therapy, with a review after 6 – 8 sessions to see whether any more would be beneficial.

We do offer one off sessions, especially if you are in a dilemma and require a non-judge-mental professional to help you way up the pros and cons of a particular decision which you are trying to make.

What to expect from counselling

During your counselling sessions, you will be encouraged to express your feelings and emotions freely. By discussing your concerns with you, the counsellor can help you to gain a better understanding of your feelings and thought processes, as well as identifying ways of finding your own solutions to problems.

The counsellor may encourage you to identify issues and, if appropriate, take personal responsibility for them. They will be able to help you recognise the effects of other people and their actions, and explore alternative ways of coping with them.

It can be a great relief to share your worries and fears with someone who acknowledges your feelings and is able to help you reach a positive solution.

Trusting your counsellor

A counsellor is trained to listen with empathy (by putting themselves in your shoes) and are impartial. They can help you deal with any negative thoughts and feelings that you have that may be affecting your life.

Counsellors aim to provide a setting where you are free to talk safely without fear of rejection, criticism or blame. Together you will look at how past experience and current behaviour may be linked and allow you the space to explore your thoughts and feelings about yourself, look at how you relate to others and find your own answers. As a result you can improve your self esteem and relationships with others, get more out of life, approach issues in a more objective manner, cope better and generally look forward to your future in a far more positive way.

What is counselling used for?

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Bereavement
  • Low Self Esteem
  • Anger Management
  • Bullying
  • Carer Support
  • Stress
  • Low Self Confidence
  • Work related stress
  • Career Support
  • Addictions

A good counsellor will focus on you and listen without judging or criticising you. They may help you find out about how you could deal with your problems, but they should not tell you what to do.

For counselling to be effective, you need to build a trusting and safe relationship with your counsellor. If you feel that you and your counsellor are not getting on, or that you are not getting the most out of your sessions, you should discuss this with your counsellor.

Counselling is offered to adults, teenagers and children.

Play therapy and art therapy is also used when counselling young children as they are not always able to express themselves verbally.

Benfleet Counselling provide a confidential, non-judgemental service and work integratively using the following approaches:

  • Humanistic/Person Centred
  • CBT
  • REBT
  • Brief Solution Focussed Therapy
  • Psychodynamic
  • Transactional Analysis
  • Play Therapy for Children and Young People
  • Art Therapy
  • Motivational Interviewing
  • EMDR Therapy

If you need someone to talk to and someone to listen to you, counselling is for you. We are here for YOU not to give you advice but to HELP you find the answers. Please click here to get in contact